I used to enjoy sex so much until recently when I started experiencing pain whenever I have sexual intercourse, the most alarming thing is that my boyfriend has failed to take it seriously, and my wails only seem to make him more excited. What could be the reason for this?

Linda
Mukono

Dear Linda,

Because sex can be painful for many reasons, and several factors could be causing the experience of pain during sex, finding the solution can be a bit like solving a mystery (a very painful mystery
Most of the times pain is brought about by factors such as, dryness, exploring different sex styles, some kinds of diseases. There are some questions that need to be answered. Like, when did sex start to hurt (has it always hurt)?

• Could the pain be because of your partner? (Size or roughness)
• When does the pain begin? (, only during penetration, related to orgasm)?
• Where do you feel the pain (is it in one specific area, or more general)?
• Are there still things you can do sexually that don't cause pain?

Use plenty of lubrication. - One of the most common reasons for painful sex is lack of lubrication. There are all sorts of reasons women experience vaginal dryness, but using a water based lubricant can be an easy and effective way to treat this problem and eliminate a major cause of painful sex.

Communicate with your partner- Don't be a martyr and bear with the pain. Talk to your partner about the pain and find a way to ease or eradicate the pain.

This can actually be one of the positives of experiencing sexual pain, it can force couples to break down communication barriers and eventually lead to a better sex life than before the pain was experienced.

Lastly, if the pain persists see a doctor and in this case a female doctor could be a better option. blog comments powered by Disqus

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