I heard that when a relationship is dying the first thing that goes is kissing, if this is the case I guess my relationship is over this is because we have now taken almost 6 months without kissing or hugging, and almost a whole year without sex, my husband is so un-interested,I don't know if I am the problem or  him, please help me?

Ritah
Namugongo

Dear Ritah;
It would be unrealistic to expect that your relationship will always be when you first met, this is because in a long-term relationships the adreline and hype are usually replaced by much more solid things like dependability, belief, and consistency. On the other hand this doesn't mean that physical attraction and passion should be sacrificed and risk loving to be a boring undertaking.

Your problem is communication rather than any other thing. The answers that you need to get from him are locked deep inside him and you are left to only speculate.

You could find that he being a man has problems that he is waiting for to reach out and you try solving them,  ask yourself, if  he is experiencing other challenging, embarrassing, or painful issues. Try and find out what is happening to him and also open up to him on the effect of his in-action on his side.

Often, acknowledging that a problem exists is a first major step towards solving it. You sound like you're aware of aspects of your relationship you'd like to change, and that is a great place to begin.

Sharing your feelings with your husband, and trying to come up with ways to create those changes can lead to a revitalized marriage with renewed sexiness, thoughtfulness, and affection.

Its important that you must not accuse him of anything as you are in communication, its important that before you start on the conversation you must make him feel loved and understood.

An honest heart to heart conversation could be able to clear this, if there seems to be no head-ways in solving the situation, and then help could be sought from other members of the family or friends, or profession councellors,but one thing that you must be careful is that you should not seek outside help without talking to him first and going together, this is because  men have a fragile ego and sometimes when its broken its never mend blog comments powered by Disqus

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