I am in my late thirties and still single most of the times people tell me that I am too picky, is there a formula on how I can get someone who is compatible with me?

Rehema
Kampala

Dear Rehema;

Many people find a chance to love but throw it away just because of minor things that don't even affect the core of a relationship. For example you could meet someone whose idea of fun is going out when you are an in-door person, such differences are not supposed to spoil a chance to love.

There is a difference in being choosy and picky. There are fields that are important for a couple to be compatible with such as Physical style, Emotional (attitude toward relationships and affection, ability to express feelings).Social style (how one interacts with others), Intellectual style (educational background, attitude toward learning creative expressions, cultural experience, Sexual style( sexual experience and skill, ability to enjoy sex, attitude)  Communication style ( how he communicates, attitude toward communication)  Professional/Financial style ( relationship with money, attitude toward success, work and organizational habits), Personal Growth style(attitude toward self-improvement, willingness to work on relationship, ability to change self ),Spiritual style ( attitude toward Higher Power, spiritual practices, philosophy of life, moral views)  Hobbies and interests  
You don't have to have total compatibility in all these areas, but in the ones that are most important to you, you should have very strong compatibility.

The truth is, I wish more people were as "choosy" as you. There would be fewer divorces and dysfunctional relationships. So don't let yourself be pressured by your family or friends to compromise what you know in your heart are important issues.

And don't give in to the artificially manufactured social time-clock that says you "must" be married before a certain age. Remember, your soul mate is waiting for you out there.

He (or she) doesn't want you to give up looking before you find him. "Hang in there!" he's whispering. And when you find him, I know it will have been worth the wait, and you won't care how long it took. blog comments powered by Disqus

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