My teacher once told me that Physics would be hell on earth if there were no assumptions to demystify it. As a subject that deals with nature it reflects resemblances with human relationships.

You will come to realize that relationships would constitute another hell on wheels if there were no lies to calm down situations or get you to the other side of the river.  Experts in relationships know that sometimes it is better to deceive now and explain later. But can this be reliable advice?

I know a number of friends who had cars while at campus and suddenly lost them after graduation. The fact is that they never owned cars but used to borrow them from well off friends. It was quite hard for unsuspicious girls to notice that the cars never belonged to these boys.

A sizeable number of girls would fall in love with these young men simply because they thought the boys owned cars and were coming from well to do families.

It's not amazing that two of these boys finally married their campus girlfriends. God knows the explanations the boys must have given their wives about the cars they used to drive at University.

It's is also a common practice among young men to shower a friend with praises in presence of a girl he is proposing to. This probably gives the girl assurance and confidence that she has the right man at her disposal.

A common strategy I remember, while at campus, was to have about seven boys in a group contribute money for lunch and the total collection handed over to one boy who then leads us to a Wandegeya restaurant.

It is in this very restaurant where our leader wants to win the heart of a charming waitress by paying the bills for all of us after a meal. We couldn't, of course, forget to thank him for clearing our bills in the presence of the waitress.

Serious women would love to know where their boyfriends stay. Fine you will be taken to a certain house but have it in mind that this may not be the real abode where he stays.

Young men keep asking for keys to our apartments so as to invite their girlfriends to well-organized and fully furnished houses. On returning to your apartment after the visitor's departure you won't find your graduation portraits on the walls. Your friend never wanted the girl to know that he doesn't own the apartment.  

Campus boys do it better; if a roommate expects a nocturnal visitor you must find accommodation else where in time so that you can give your friend privacy to discuss issues at length with his visitor. Some roommates may go a head to assist you with requirements that will enable you exercise your romantic talents and sing romantic hallelujah.

Men, though shy to say, have once upon a time borrowed clothes from friends to appear smart on appointment with their dates.

Some would even borrow money to be able to lose their economic temper and spend lavishly to impress the girls. Girls please if you thought you were out with a tycoon think twice because the man whose pockets you are sucking dry has debt obligation to settle. He is in a borrowed status.

If only men chose to be themselves and threw away masks they would have a chance to get women who love them unconditionally. Other wise lies that will never have convincing explanations thereafter can only offer you a temporary relationship.

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