All unfixed messes in this world have got one thing in common; no one has come up boldly to take personal responsibility or blame for any one of them. It has been easier, however, to find someone else to blame for the messes.

May be the easiest things to find are the faults and the persons to blame for these faults. But the truth remains that blame is just a lazy person's way of making sense of chaos. Rather than looking for who to blame look for the solution.

Everybody would love to find an excuse that exonerates them from blame. But finding excuses is laying a foundation for more mistakes. An excuse becomes an obstacle in your journey to success when it is made in place of your best effort or when it is used as the object of the blame. A man may fail many times but he isn't a failure until; he begins to blame somebody else.

A few exceptional people know that blame is safer than praise. Such people have a special endowment for good leadership. Actually a good leader takes a little more than his share of the blame and a little more than his share of the credit.

If something went wrong they would first establish whether or not they have contributed to the mess before running out to look for who to blame. This is extra-ordinary justice of which almost all people are devoid.
A high school male teacher was severely beaten by two boys one evening after confirming that he was having a love affair with their girlfriend, a 17 year old girl in the same school. For the entire three months admission at the hospital the teacher refused to disclose the names of the boys who attacked him.

He didn't want the boys to be punished by the school or police; he chose to take the blame for having an affair with their girlfriend and he wanted the injuries inflicted on him to serve as a punishment for his indecent behaviour. Deep down in him he knew that the boys' actions were justified.

Later the guilt in the teacher grew into imaginable proportions. His heart convinced him that he had only got a share of his punishment. He deserved something bigger - a punishment.

He very well knew that he had contradicted with the ethical code of conduct as a teacher by starting up an indecent relationship with his student. Secondly he had dealt with a minor, 17 year old, who is not yet ripe to make rational decisions according the constitution.

Consequently he deliberately tendered in his resignation letter to the head teacher an act which, according to him, served as his punishment for falling in love with his under aged student.

There is nothing that kills a man so soon as having nobody to find fault with but himself. Those who find it just fine are quite the uncommon species and the teacher is a perfect example. Obviously an amazing act yielded wonderful results.

The teacher underwent a moral transformation, repented and joined another school. This kind of self-ignited reform has won him fame and success, and he has guided many teachers as they pursue their careers.

 It is unwise to argue for other people's weaknesses; not even our own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it. Otherwise to carry a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee.

Any party which takes credit for the rain must not be surprised if its opponents blame it for the drought. Now we have two choices: Continue to blame the world for our stress or take responsibility for own reactions and deliberately change our emotional climate. The choice is yours.  

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