As I write this, methinks there has been a lot of undue brouhaha about sex. I was reading about a status off a social network about how long is long? Heck! How long should a man pump away to cross the pre-ejaculation line?

As for me, I have no idea but?As a matter of fact, it still amazes me why such an issue is brought to the fore especially in an all screwed up society like ours. Women have invested more in sex toys and whips and have done nothing at all, to salvage their real body-to-body sex life.

When two adults decide to fool around with their bodies and the chemistry is right, it defies logic trying to think about how long you are gonna take thrusting away; who will have that luxury anyway.  Lets get down to the basics here.

Am sure ladies will not want to hear this; if a man romances you, he cares about you and maybe loves you too. During that canoodling and caressing (if u asked me it would include a good head job), I expect you to reach orgasm.

It is your right and not a privilege. Anything done after that romance is just a bonus to you - the woman. If you cant, don't go around laying blame of the poor brother, you need to seek medical attention. To the next stage?

When a man finally makes love to a woman, it is none of the woman's business coz the man is thrusting to pleasure him. Call it greed or something but at the foreplay stage it was all about the woman. A man can decide to come in the next thirty seconds and that is it! Now What? I call this 'Kigagga'??a rich man's model where he got nothing to loose; he calls the shots anyhoos.

Of course I do understand that many women will say they don't want mates who take too long. But again, when a man does a 'Kigagga' on them, they start sulkin and listening to 'one minute man'.  When a guy takes an hour or so, they say they dry up in the process and don't enjoy it anymore. Now lemme get this straight; who is fooling who? How thick is the line between a 'one-minute man?and 'too long?

In as much as men are said to be ignorant of what they want, am cock sure women also don't know what they really want. This whole topic reminds me of what I wrote in these pages about the size of a man's sexual gadget. Although many women will tell you they hate it big, they are the same people who say they are tired of 'tooth picks, 'sausages'.

How then can a man be expected to know if he has the smallest or biggest? Wait, am actually thinking there is a double standard in here. Why are men not complaining about 'large and narrow? I mean you don't find men complaining about how large some chic was or how tight she was.

But again women will take this to their advantage. Just like a lousy woman in bed will call the man a non performer, so will a dry woman complain the man takes too long; and just as a wider than Northern by-pass woman wont feel a man in her, so will a woman who is used to sex toys and dildos.

As for a friend who complained about the chap taking forever to cum, I did comment to the effect that an average man takes about five minutes to ejaculate. An exceptional man could take up to between ten to twenty minutes. As for a man who knows tantric sex, it could last for hours! Now do the mathematics and figure out where you belong.

There are Kampala women who really think they deserve creme de la creme of sex - those who enjoy their sex life to the very fullest. This class of women gives the whole dose and they want the whole dose in return.

There are no two ways about that. Of course there are those who say they are not 'sex objects'. good for them - their men are cheating and are happy to do it too.

However in all this, I see selfishness strewn through the whole time thing. If a man romances and licks the 'unlickables' for a whole half an hour, can't a woman, even as a mere 'thank you' stand him for at least more than thirty minutes? It is all about balancing the equation. I mean after women assuming the man's roles, it is just a matter of prudence to get even. But of course there is an exit point.

Option B could be to limit foreplay. For example if we romance for a mere 5 minutes, then I should be expected to take not so long before the bang!!! Now who wants that situation?

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