It's impossible for one to know what will happen when it comes to issues about infidelity and cheating in a relationship, but one thing for sure is that, you really don't have to wait till it happens;

This is because most of the times after cheating occurs, things never normalize to the previous level.

There aren't any golden rules that need to be followed in order to avoid being cheated on but there are things that one can do to minimize the chances of being cheated.

Be  vigilant

The first rule is treating your partner like your child. I don't mean to treat them childishly, nay!

But you have to be vigilant on whatsoever they are doing, just the same way that you keep track of your little child.

People have perfected the ways they cheat so incorporate your senses into your defense, use all your senses, your eyes (look), ears (listen), nose (smell), touch (feel) and your brains and let the heart come last.

A mother can tell when a toddler is about to become sick, likewise partners should be able to identify when something changes in their relationship.

Face your partner

Whenever the hint (suspicion) gives way, don't shy away from your partner, the best way to stop a wandering partner is by holding them on the arm and telling them that they are following the wrong route(straying).

When they are still not very far from cheating. Even if you feel it instinctively, air it out and tell your partner, in a polite way not accusingly about your suspicion.

And most importantly never ever allow your partner to know that they can get away with lying/cheating on you! Never shy away from an impending disaster!

Feed the fire

Relationship is like one big furnace that consumes whatsoever is thrown into it, and in return it emits heat, the moment you stop supplying it with wood the fire dies away.

No matter for how long or how intense it has been on, make a weekly or monthly check list and see what you have done this week/month to keep the fire burning in your relation?

It's during the dying moments of the fire in your relationship that other intruders come in! So keep the fire burning always and never ever rest, lest someone wrestles you out of the relationship.

Add value to yourself

Distillers world wide agree that wine adds more value as time passes by, so it's a love crime for you to always be the way you first met with your partner.

You are supposed to improve with time, make your self, indispensable by adding value not only to yourself but to your relationship in general!

It is agreed that if one desires a good partner they need first to be good themselves, so up the friendship in your relationship, the trust, love and all  those good qualities.

Are you happy?

It is said that the moment that you ask yourself this question you cease being happy, but this is far from the truth.

A good relationship must be based on a solid, firm belief and aim of being happy together.

Spending long periods talking to each other always cultivate a closeness that is rare to find in people who don't love each other.

Laughing together and playing together can make you and your partner best companions. Another ideal way to go in pursuit of happiness is by performing tasks together (be it house chores).

This also brings a togetherness feeling that is also healthy in a relationship. Lastly as one relationship guru says "Don't stop being friends just because you're a couple".

The occasional sacrifice

Most of the times partners stray because one of them (or both) has decided to be rigid with the other partners ways and schedule.

You could find that maybe one partner is a football fanatic, the other is a movie freak, without the couple trying to balance and give up a little of their passion to accommodate the others passion in their lives.

Then this means that they will always have to go separately to the things they enjoy most! It's during this adreline rush in the midst of other preys that your partner gets hooked up with someone who has the same passion, thus this place becomes futile ground for cheating!

Admit   and apologize

No one is perfect! Thus, should your partner confront you with the accusation of cheating, and deep inside you know that it is the truth, admit the mistake and apologize and try to rectify where things went wrong.

Most of the times pride overrule our common sense, but a good lesson could be derived from the former president of USA.

Bill Clinton who was not only a great president, but he showed other couples that with the golden word of "I am sorry" things can always work out.

Lastly never ignore the feeling that you start feeling that something is wrong ,90% of the times something will be wrong.

In short, trust your god given instinct, and always make sure that you are spot on before confronting your partner lest your accusations be guided by blind and  unhealthy jealousy. blog comments powered by Disqus

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