By Kim Kajumba

This world is not a place for quitters, this is a lesson that I learnt from my teacher almost a decade ago. So, if you've lost your partner and wish to have him/her back, there is always a chance that you can win it (love) back.

It won't be easy, and your wish wouldn't be handed to you on a silver platter, so you better put on your thick skin and follow these simple steps.

Rewind your past

There is a popular saying that "he who forgets his past robs the future" so before you embark on taking your love life to the past, first rewind all that went wrong and see to it that you address each and every bit. If its wrongs like drinking too much, first rectify that bit before embarking on your new mission.

Keep communicating

The heart of any relationship is the communication bit of it, when this breaks, so does the relationship, the good thing is that the reverse of it is equally true,  keep on the communication line and the chances of you getting back is almost 90%.

You don't have to make it a romantic one make it a casual kind of communication, an occasional call, an invitation, to say, a social gathering, just keep the communication line alive. For those who have something in common its even easier, say a child or work, or you are neighbors.

Just don't allow this line to go dead, and when the casual communication is on, try friendship, when you reach this level, know you are almost there!

Don't give him/her time to adjust

There are some people who would advise you to give yourselves time; this is one of the reasons why most couples don't ever get back. If you truly loved someone, it's only normal that you keep reminding them that you still love and care for them.

When you stop, they tend to erase you from their lives and there is no better eraser than time. Sticking around also helps in scaring off possible suitors; don't give them a chance to resettle their lives without you.

Ask for outside help

Our relationships are surrounded by individuals who would be of help at such a time; it's of paramount importance to involve them at such times.

There is a trick that always works, which is, befriending some elder from your partner's side, it's always the advice of such people that often beats the senses back into the heads of our run away partners. It's also said that sometimes it takes a third party to tell you how much your partner loves you! Put this saying into action and seek that third party help.

Don't be desperate

There is a very thin line between showing someone that you can't live without them and being desperate, showing that you miss them is sending something like a text message in the middle of the night telling them that you can't sleep.

Desperation on the other hand is, calling them in the middle of the night, and actually expect them to answer the phone. Don't despair but always make sure that you constantly plant a thought of you in their head, sending cards to work place or home is an act of showing that you wish s/he was still yours, but confronting them is a sign of desperation.

Stalk him/her

In the western world there is a law against stalking someone, and the police have something called a restricting order, atleast here we have no such barriers, so go ahead and know what is happening to your desired one, I don't mean you to follow them everywhere, but you can decide to find out where they will be at a particular time, then either be there before they arrive or wait for a short time then appear. Look for an excuse to be around and make an effort of telling them what a sweet coincidence it is!

Give your head the control

Emotions are feelings that are generated from our hearts, never allow these to dictate your life's pace and action. Let your head always be in-charge, this way you could decide what is right or wrong, it is people who let their emotions control them that often  commit crimes of passion! Plan all there is but don't overstep the boundary lest you scare them off.

There are things that one should always take note in their endeavor to re- capture your lost love, top on this list is, don't allow your partner to refer to you as ex-, tell them to call you by your name.  Also never forget the anniversaries and special occasions in his/her life, or the life you had together, make sure to always celebrate them and let them know,s it shows that you care, and lastly offer a shoulder for them to lean on, or at least tell them that you have two shoulders and one will always be ready whenever s/he needs it. This is another way of telling them that you are there for them.