Sex is not everything when it comes to relationships. Ok, sex is perhaps the biggest aspect in a man's relationship, but just like eating food or watching football, there are many things that are involved and sometimes even more important than the food.

For example, the type of food has to be a favourite, the place where you eat it from has to be clean, the sauce has to be right and the drink you accompany it with has to be a choice.

The state of your appetite has to be conducive for eating, where you may be coming from to have the meal can be a factor just as where you intend to going after eating. The list of these and other factors is that long that if I were to name them all, I could end this piece just trying to show you that though at the beginning you had considered eating as the primary thing, other things that surround having a meal could make or break the whole process of eating.

There are people who break up (failed relationship) even when their sex life is so good. Recent studies have shown that 89 per cent of men interviewed preferred having sex with their wives to having it with their mistresses. So, what do men really need in a relationship?

Ego
By nature, man is egoistic; he likes being pampered, having his ego raised and never lowered at all times.

Do that to him and he will cherish you for ever! Woe unto you should you crush it because you are unlikely to raise it again. Bruised egos have made men abandon, hurt and sometimes kill their spouses.

Telling your man things like "You are the best, you are a miracle" can do wonders to your relationship. And a woman should always avoid making statements that compare her man to other men.

Saying things like "you are better than ……" are statements that sometimes can have back-firing effects. Situations like these can result into the opposite of what might have been expected or intended.

Time apart
Many a female misunderstand the male urge of sometimes preferring to be alone or with the boys. Ladies should learn to go easy on their men when, at certain times, the latter decide to shut them out.

This is because experts agree that it's at such times that men get a chance to re-charge their energy towards their women and the relationships they may be engaged in at large. So please occasionally give your man some space.

Motherly care
Deep inside, all men are boys. Their known carelessness, the blunders they make, is characteristically all that of boys.

So, when you apply a motherly concern for your man, know that you will have triggered the long lost care that he had long forgotten and this is what his mother gave him. Check his hygiene, his diet, his driving, his words and all those things that mothers do. It wont be that hard, because women instinctively have it.

Laughter  
The general aim of all male species is to make their females happy. That is why a cock  scratches a rubbish-covered ground and calls out to a hen to come and feed.

A peacock  dances and flashes his feathers for the peafowl while other animals fight so that a female can choose the stronger of them. These are examples showing one thing male species have in common; making the female happy.

So, be happy around your man, or create a happy atmosphere in the home; laugh your heart out, giggle and show happiness. We want is to make you happy!

Trust
Probably one of the most important things that a man craves more than anything from his woman is her ability to trust him in all aspect of life; it doesn't have to be only in sexual matters, nay!

Show your man that he can and he will; keep telling him that he can't and he will never even try. One vice that some women have is daring their men. This is a suicide route; avoid it. You might be surprised what a man can do when dared!

Others
These are some of the small tit bits that can make your man get addicted to you. Others may include occasionally giving him little surprises, enhancing his visual power by being sexy and showing him some flesh.

Men are visual creatures that's why they will not stop ogling other women even when they are with their spouses/girl-friends. So, occasionally feed his eyes and treat him to some romance but don't always let him be the boss; sometimes you should take control.

Many books have been written and studies conducted to show how different men are from their female counterparts. Many women have held grudges against their men for not behaving or acting like they expected of them. An example is one where a friend of mine lost a child.

The mother cried for a week and when she was through the initial grief, she started packing her belongings. When asked why she was leaving, she replied: "I can't live with someone who cannot even shed a tear when his child dies!"

The bottom line is that though many things might appear alike, the truth is far from that; the male are, as they say, "from Mars while females are from……" a real difference between them. blog comments powered by Disqus

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