Whenever I think about love and our grandfathers I pity them and sometimes wonder how they managed to get through without a lot of verbal communication.

Nowadays technology has given us an edge in that, we can even communicate with our loved ones even when we are thousands of miles away!

Though communication encompasses many other things (signs) but words form the corner stone of all communication aspect. Apart from just talking, lovers can enhance their romance by talking erotically, this way they form a kind of appetizing forum and the good thing is that the erotic talk doesn't have to always lead to sex!

A multitude of people wrongly presuppose that "erotic talk is the synonym of   "dirty talk" this is a gross misrepresentation of erotic talk, the fact is that dirty talk is just a branch of erotic talk.

While dirty talk may add some animalistic and lusty  isntincts  to love making, erotic talk can stimulate and caress your partner's intellectual, emotional and sexual feelings  and can even raise her/his spirits.

The 5 "WS"
In journalism there is what we call the 5w's, literally it is a guide on how to get it right, when one needs to do some good reporting. The reporter is  supposed to answer questions like "Why, when what where who".

Similary, this is  a format that one can use  when it comes to erotic talk, though one has to be careful so that they don't limit themselves on any one of the 5ws. Take for example the "who", unlike other things about love and romance, talking erotically should not only be limited to your partner.

Many people would categorize, say a news anchor as someone very romantic by just listening to his/her voice on radio. A lady colleague of mine once told me that her heart melts whenever she listens to a one Allan Kasujja, a.k.a Mr. President of Capital Fm’s  morning crew .   
                                                                                                                                                                                                         
How
The “how” of the 5ws could be some whispered word of sweet nothing, a teasing phrase, a covert suggestion, a cry of passionate-words, all these have an ability of being a treasurable intimate gift that couples can exchange between themselves at no cost at all.  

Many lovers still cherish the first romantic words that came from their lovers for ages and   will still remember the first erotic statement their lovers made on the day they decided to become intimate. Words that touched their inner most part of their soul.

Who
It is important to note that erotic talk is supposed to express and generate or intensify passion.

The advantage of this is that sometimes these words don't have to have a meaning, and as we have seen you could use your imagination to communicate anything even if it doesn't have any tangible meaning.

A friend of mine had a lady from the Masaba land, he once told me that when they are making love, he knows he is on the right track when his lady starts talking in "Gishu" yet  he  never used to even  understand even a word, efforts to get translation from his lady were always futile. Nevertheless he used to get a kick out of what he considered was erotis talk.      
  
Where
You do not have to wait until you and your partner are in bed, getting ready to make love, to start practicing erotic talk. You can begin to incorporate romantic and sensual words into your everyday routine.

From the time you wake up, you could compliment your partner for being a good sleep mate, or looking beautiful even without make-up or the fact that you feel loved, safe or anything you feel just waking up by her/his side.

A comment on how your partner smells could go a long way in enhancing his/her confidence and "up" "the Iam loved  feeling" that has lasting effects on all human beeings.

When
Perhaps the one thing that we can give kudos to is the modern technology improvement of communication gadgets, phone, e-mails, and chat- rooms do the trick even when you are very far from your partner for long periods of time.

Sexy erotic conversations can keep the romantic and sexual ember alive despite the fact that there is a long distance between the two of you.

Though the physical and sexual touch could be miles away, we could still feel wanted and cherished by the erotic communication we get from our long -distance relationships.
                                                
Some suggestions
Every individual has a different way of looking at things, its this uniqueness and difference that can be used as a diverse way of expressing yourself to your lover.

But as usual there are things that we often over look, these might be in form of dedicating love songs to each other or better to sing them yourself, texting romantic messages to each other, leaving love notes at home, work, office or sending flowers to your lover.

Learn poetry or send them to your loved one, you will be amused  to know how someone else can say to you exactly how and what you feel. blog comments powered by Disqus

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