I beg for an explanation as to why married ladies look for housemaids that are not good looking. In fact I once thought that all maids are supposed to be ugly.
In the same line someone one owes me an explanation as to why men don’t want houseboys in their homes. If it’s not a sign of being insecure about themselves, then what is it?
Sometimes we confuse being in love with being insecure. Actually being insecure has been called a green-eyed monster, and when it comes to your relationship, it can be monstrously destructive. Rather than being a sign of deep love and caring, it is a sign of potentially destructive problems in the relationship.
An insecure partner wants to gather as much information about what their partner is doing, who they are seeing, and where exactly they are. If you notice that your partner is asking a whole lot of questions after you have just spent a few hours apart, and if it’s something that happens often, take it as a guarantee that they are struggling with deeply-rooted insecurities.
These feelings are a mere reflection of how insecure they feel about themselves, and that seeps out into their daily interactions. Unfortunately, this behavior can also be a sign of a controlling partner.
Insecure men are found everywhere. What out for a guy who looks over your shoulder when you receive a text. He may nonchalantly ask who you are texting or he might outright demand to see your phone.
He oftentimes feels like you are hiding something from him if you are on your computer or phone, even if you are just checking your work email or texting a friend. Such a person can’t quite shake his suspicions that you’re cheating on him.
He may accuse you of flirting with the waiter, having an affair with a coworker, or just looking around for someone better.
The funny fact about an insecure man is that it isn’t necessarily that he doesn’t trust you; it’s more about him feeling like he’s not good enough for you so it’s just a matter of time until you find someone better.
For insecure women they take everything as a criticism and jump straight to being defensive as their default mode. You may not have done or said anything that should give reason for such a reaction. But you receive it nonetheless. Such women read far too much into innocent statements and will accuse you of intending things which were never meant.
People don’t believe in themselves. They live in awed fear of what may happen. They always think that their partners are cheating or seeing other people. This imposes a strain on the relationship. Helping insecure partners out of this predicament is a sure way of saving your relationship. Now is the time and start by talking about it.